Mother’s Day reflection

Hey y’all!

I hope everyone had a great Mother’s Day. I know there’s so much emphasis on that day that it led me to some thoughts and deep reflection. Many of us mothers, special needs mothers even more so, lose ourselves caring for our children. I don’t think any of us would change it, but we do need to still find ourselves as individuals. I’ve had to ask myself, who am I outside of my son?

David is only 4. You’d think hey, I’ve had 24 years alone and only 4 as a parent, how can I not know myself outside of his mother? But I didn’t. Not until very recently. If you’ve been following along, you know we moved from Virginia to South Carolina last year. This was my first time moving out of state, away from everyone. This has been the most helpful thing for me to learn who I am. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in our child’s needs, therapy schedules, etc. that it sounds like a luxury to figure out who we are as people, not just moms. How sad is that? It’s the norm in America, though. We aren’t given the time to know ourselves, especially if you’re a working mom on top of everything else. I think that’s why Mother’s Day gets so much press. We are expected to take that day and that be enough.

This reflection has led to me wanting to share something the amazing Dani said on Hydrow. Be comfortable being uncomfortable. That has stuck with me so much. We grow a tremendous amount when we are pushed out of our comfort zones. Moving out of state was very uncomfortable for me, even though it was a welcome change. Change can be completely uncomfortable, but it can also change your life.

Since I’ve been taking time for myself, I’ve fallen back in love with literature and books. I’ve also pushed myself to sign up for book clubs to meet new people as well. I’m still a mom. David will always be my number 1 priority, but I have to fill my own glass as well.

I just wanted to write this post to let all you mommas know that it is okay to take your own needs into account. It is not selfish, it is necessary. And let’s stop just celebrating ourselves on Mother’s Day. Do that shit daily 😉

🖤Erica